Receipts, Proof, Timelines, Screenshots

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When you're in a relationship with a gaslighter, they tend to make you feel crazy and/or not believe reality so many victims begin to take notes and record conversations to cement that these incidents are real.  Ted's behavior caused me to do this for several months.  Often there were notes daily regarding his suspicious behavior, abuse, and/or gaslighting.  

This website contains personal narratives and subjective commentary.  All entries are expressions of personal opinion and recollection.  Names and identifying details may be altered.  It is not presented as objective fact.

February 2, 2025

Left the house at 12:07pm after taking time to get ready to do who knows what, went the other way when he pulled out of the driveway.  Got back at 1:18pm and tried to say that he'd gone to his work.  Sure, you hate the place so much yet you always seem to end up there on your day off.  Wonder what twenty something year old you're trying to have an inappropriate relationship with this time.  He had promised to take me fishing today and caused all this drama so he wouldn't have to.  Said he didn't remember promising me that, makes me wonder what other promises you don't remember making.  

Tries to come in the bedroom at like 5:30pm and tries to force me to not be depressed and tells me that I am making the choice to feel this way.  Oh you mean it wouldn't have ANYTHING to do with your actions, gaslighting, cheating, and lies?  I should just be nice and overlook all those is what he wants me to do.  Then he tries telling me that we didn't just sit here on his vacation.  Oh wow.  We went hiking.  ONCE.  I'm so fucking impressed that you brought me in public one extra day.  Then says he would have been down to fish today if he thought that had been the plan. *cough* gaslighter.  He makes it quite obvious that he doesn't actually love me, he only loves when I am doing something for him.  

Friday February 7, 2025

Said he went on his lunch at 2:49pm.  Texted him at 2:56pm and he didn't respond until 3:07pm.  Said he went and got my anniversary card.

Saturday February 8, 2025 OUR ANNIVERSARY

Has deleted texted on his phone from one of the twenty something year old skanks at his work, she texted him Wednesday afternoon and told him she is thinking of coming back, he told her he misses her muchhhhhho and tells her to come in and the days he is closing.  Not weird at all that he would delete these.  And that he was texting me at the same time.

And we were just talking in the car about how he thinks I am trusting him a bit more.  GASLIGHTING at its finest.  

His ex  texted him too and he didn't say anything about it to me. 7:31pm called me on the way home and said his phone is almost dead, I said "oh yeah who were you busy talking to all day on it for that to happen?" and he evaded that response.  Wanted me to do stuff for him all night long but he could only rub my shoulder for a second and when I tell him right there, he stops.  His unwillingness to do anything physical for me is such a huge turnoff.  He is so damn lazy.  

 Monday February 10, 2025

I had recovered the texts from the skank at his work, and he deleted them again. Trying to talk to me about trust while deliberately hiding talking to other women.  I walked by his work and saw him texting someone so I texted him and asked who he was texting, he took four minutes to respond and said his manager asked for copies of the schedule.  Randomly had pedialyte and said he walked to buy it, and that he met his aunt at the bank on his break yet didn't mention any of this happening.

Tuesday February 11, 2025

He got dressed in the bathroom and took his phone with him.  Betting there aren't texts from his boss yesterday.  His stomach was messed up and he kept asking me what was wrong.  Kept pushing so I said "what do you think" and he had the audacity to call me selfish because I'd been trying to get laid for days but it's only about Ted and his lies.

He tried to act all lovey dovey when we got up and I was not having it.  I literally laid there all night thinking about how he called me selfish and all the exact ways I’m not selfish with him and all the ways he is.  Then he tried to make every excuse again about not feeling good and how in this situation I was selfish but that was all he meant.    Don’t cry because it was one you didn’t like.  Then I boxed up his shoes for him to ship because it had to be done today and we know damn well he wouldn’t box them up or even try to.  So then he tried to kiss me before we left and tells me he loves me and I told him I have so much resentment towards him right now.  And I told him he creates all these problems and expects everyone else to fix them for him and he was saying something about “I’ve had this problem before you” which he must have thought I was talking about his dick not working, which I wasn’t.  I was talking about all these other problems that he expects people to do.  So who knows how he took my expecting other people comment.  Dropped him off at work, he threw the keys on the seat and stormed off, leaving me to do all this shit for him.

Texted me some dumbass passive aggressive apology “Thank you for doing that and moving foward I will do everything for myself. Don't mean to piss you off.” at 12:39pm and I didn’t see it so 12:49pm he asked if I’m just going to ignore him.   You are really on a fucking roll today.  How much fucking nerve can one person have?

Got up to his work at like 6:20pm and of course he is standing there laughing with Roxy.  Go fuck yourself.   Then he makes me hot chocolate that said love you on the top, he said you can barely read it huh.  I said good thing you don’t get a lot of practice making it 🤣.  

Walked to Safeway and got him a Valentine’s Day card while I was waiting.  Now I know I can really say I went out of my way   

Told me he would probably be done early multiples times and yet at 6:53pm he said he’d be done in a few minutes.  

7:35pm phone on camera when I came in the room.  I asked him why his camera was on and he said he didn’t know.  His phone was half hid under the blanket face up.  Not weird at all 🙄

Then he finally tried touching me there…which read the fucking room.  I wasn’t rubbing him or touching him at all.  He did that just so I would rebuff him so he could say “see every time I try, you turn me down.”  I knew that one was coming.  And yeah, if I don’t feel like having you touch me, I don’t need to just so you can make yourself feel better.  You certainly don’t want to touch me so don’t even try it you fuckiing gaslighting manipulator.  Tried muttering shit, he can fuck off.   He put on his headphones and I turned over and acted like I was going to sleep.  He left the room at 10:18pm.   Peace out bitch.   His reaction shows the exact amount of respect he has for me.  None.  Came in at 1:50am.  Then made sure to pick up his phone and it was on his text screen.  Wonder who the hell he was texting all night 

Woke up being an asshole when I asked him if he wanted to talk, he said he was good.  Because he didn't need anything from me.

Had his zoom class for his domestic abuse case and he lied to them too.  That is all he knows is to lie.  He told them we went to dinner for our anniversary and the superbowl.  Things he doesn't have to even lie about but he chooses to.  And tried to lie and say he's been doing well with his acive listening.  HAHAHAHAHA yet another lie. 

Called me at 7:29pm and told me he was closing with a male but funny how the schedule he actually sent his boss had some broad's name on it that started with an M as a third.  Typical for him to gaslight me and leave information out.  And that texts were deleted by someone marked as M that he swears he has no idea and cannot remember who it is.  Yeah, sure.  Whatever you say gaslighting liar. 

Showed up to his work at 7:15pm and he was just closing up and looked surprised to see me.  Had some chick I’ve never seen closing with him.  Asked who it was and it was someone from another store of the other manager that is covering.  So we go to deliver coffee to Jason and he mentions about who was the sandwich earlier for?  Because it had peppers so he knew it wasn’t for me.  Well apparently dumbfuck is getting other women free sandwiches.   So we leave and he tries to touch me and I’m like I’m good when you’re getting other women free food and he’s like that’s not what happened and he explained it and I’m literally like that’s exactly what happened.  So I said you must not have been busy and he said it happened almost right before they closed at around 6:30pm so he’s texting Jason other women’s food orders but funny how he didn’t read my text from like 5:47pm.   I told him well good, now you have her order for next time. He told Jason that her boyfriend came in and she made a bunch of free drinks for him.  And she has never closed before so he was doing all the stuff early.  Yeah remember that next time I don’t answer in the first three minutes bitch.   So I had walked up there so we can go to target.  Guess who didn’t end up going to target.   This is the last time I’m fucking getting ready to go anywhere for his ass.  He is a constant disappointment.  No wonder why he looked so surprised that I was there.  I should have asked who he was closing with, he probably would have lied and said Will.  He said Will called in because his mom died.  It always seems to coincide when he is working with women when he doesn’t answer my texts.  Tried to make some dumb comment about getting off work and all I want to do is talk shit to him.  First of all, you’re a dumbass because no one was talking shit and second of all, you’re a dumbass because you’re probably panicking wondering if you lied to me about who you were closing with.  

Just makes me wonder even more who he is giving free drinks to.  Funny he didn’t ask me if I wanted anything.   

He went in the living room right when he got home which is totally fine with me.  

Made himself some nachos at 9pm.   He knows damn well he couldn’t order food for himself.  

Then he tried texted me about if I want to make up or not and I told him I had questions.  So then it went around and around with him lying and saying that he didn’t ignore me.  But yet he texted Jason first so he had to have pulled up his texts and scroll down to get to him so he would have seen that there was a new one from me.  And yet he keeps saying he didn’t ignore me.  Yes.  Yes you did.  You ignored me to take care of another woman’s wants and needs while ignoring me.  Funny everyone else got free drinks and dinner tonight except for me.  

10:51pm I’m so mad right now I can’t quit shaking.  I told him he’s not going to gaslight me and try to tell me he didn’t ignore me.  His text right before that said he had nothing else to say about the situation so of course he isn’t responding to me.  Good.  He can ignore me all he wants but until he admits that he ignored me, I don’t want to speak to him at all.  I have nothing to say.  In fact, now I’m even more suspicious about what he does for other women at work.  Because had I not gone up there and apparently shocked him, Jason wouldn’t have said anything about another sandwich in front of me and I would have never known. I really wished I would have asked him who he was closing with to see if he would have lied to me.  All he did was try and lie from the first second we walked out Togos door.  I said so you’re getting free food for other women?  No I didn’t and then he tried to get all mad and said I’m not listening.   Well gee, you literally told me that you asked her if she wanted a sandwich and then texted Jason about it sooooooooo how is that not getting free food for another woman?  Oh wait.  It is.   

He tried rubbing my back and saying good morning and I was like hello.  He can’t just come out and say I got another woman free food.  He’s “I told you the whole story” yeah, that you got another woman free food and then lied to my face about it since you told me no you didn’t.  Then he still tried to say that isn’t what happened.   Ummmmmm well the exact “whole story” you told me is describing you getting another woman free food.    So he won’t accept responsibility or say it aloud probably because he knows how bad it sounds.  He clearly thinks he did nothing and I am so far from agreement.  Especially because he is acting so funny about it.   And I even said, funny how you looked shocked to see me.  Not happy. And he said yeah because I was wondering what the hell you were doing there.    Well now I guess I could say the same.    Then he starts screaming about the steps of what happened and guess what, you’re describing exactly what I said but you can’t say the words which is real suspicious to me.  This really has my mind spiraling and any inkling of trust I had in him is absolutely gone.  Then he gets up and acts like he’s going to go somewhere and says he will see who he can find to give free food to.  Yeah, I’m sure it won’t be your small limp dick.  I told him I’m sure he will find some skank.  I think he said something about putting on nice clothes.  I gave up listening to him.   Then he got in bed and I think he texted someone.  Not sure who but I don’t really care at this point.  The fact that he is unable to just say what he did raises a huge red flag for me.  And that he was so shocked I was there.  Kind of really fucking weird.

I went and took a shower and when I got back after awhile he asked if I wanted any food.  I said nope.  Then I go worry about other people eating.  And he had put his headphone back on so I kindly repeated it for him.

2pm he left the bedroom. His food was delivered at 2:06pm

My sushi was delivered at 3:15pm

4:30pm came in here and tried to talk like nothing had happened and I told him I have nothing to say to him until he admits.  I told him that the look on his face told me everything I needed to know.  He told me I was just up there trying to start some trouble.  I said no, I just went up there to go to target with you, but who knows what other secret shit you’re trying to hide from me.  Why would he need to change to go to target?  He keeps saying that he isn’t lying but yet his story is exactly what he is unwilling to say because I keep saying another woman, when it’s another “worker”. cool.  Prostitutes are “workers” too.  I told him he broke my trust so then he said to just pack my shit up and go then.  Fine.  I will.  You think it’s okay to lie right to my face. 

Glad I wasted an entire day inside when it’s 64 degrees and all-star weekend.  Blew another once in a lifetime opportunity because of his lazy cheating ass

6:20pm I texted him and told him that I’m sorry but the look of disappointment on his face really, really hurt my feelings.

He has started typing back three times so far and stopped at 6:24pm 🤣

“It wasn't disappointment at all. I was just shocked because your usually there before I close. I'm sorry I made you feel upset and sad but I assure you I was working hard to get home to you early baby. The whole day was kind of trash. That girl that helped didn't even start until 3pm. I love you with all my heart.”

Blah blah blah.  Something is still weird but whatever. 

Then he came in the bedroom and was telling me how he’d never cheat on me and blah blah and how much he loves me and he won’t ever just let me cry and be emotional.  I told him I’m disappointed that my life just passes me by daily and I just sit here.  And then he said so do something.  Then gets all offended and says if I’m not the right fit for you, just let me know.  That’s your decision, I don’t want to hold you back from anything.   Then he mutters about he doesn’t know why he came back in here or some bullshit and left the room again.  Which is fine because of course he left his headphones out in the living room.

MONDAY February 17, 2025

He got up and took a shower since he didn’t yesterday.   Left at 10:33am.  Didn’t have any shirts for work.  Mentioned it at least three times talking.  Told him there is a thing called a washing machine.  

10:51am texted me love you my sweet woman

Funny how the words he uses always changes 

Then texted me at 11:31am that he can’t wait to go bowling and make sweatshirts with me.

Why you always on your phone so much at work? 🤣

Texted me at 12:54pm and asked how I am doing 

Called me at 2:12pm on his lunch and I was in the kitchen so he went on the ring app and talked to me in the kitchen.  Such a stalker.  Told me he is closing with Trevor 

4:23pm said he is taking his last break after he was just texting me.    Told me he had most of the stuff done.   Called me at 6:50pm

Tuesday February 18, 2025

Woke up and he called the beyond finance people when I had hit the snooze button and still wanted to sleep.  Then they are wanting a copy of the paperwork that I mailed scanned and uploaded.   Apparently filling it out and uploading it isn’t enough because it’s a legal document which makes no sense because it’s the same thing as scanning it.  Which he is too dense to understand and wants to try to argue with me about it and then tells me I’m trying to make excuses because I don’t understand what to do.  MOTHER FUCKER WHO IS DOING ALL THIS SHIT FOR YOU BECAUSE YOU DON’T KNOW HOW?!?!   Well you’re about to learn now because I’m not doing anymore after that comment.  Then I basically said that about him not knowing how and he said no, not really but….yeah DOHKAY DUMBASS.  Tell me I don’t know the fuck what I’m doing.  You got scammed by some finance company because you don’t know what you’re doing and you want to talk shit to me?  I have nothing to do with it beyond helping you try to get out of this mess so maybe your stupid bitch ass should remember that.

He left at 10:38am and closed the garage on his own. Funny how he was supposed to bring a change of clothes to go bowling.  Fuck him.  

You might want to check yourself next time before you try to tell me I’m making excuses for something that I have nothing to do with and have only tried to help you.

How fucking dumb are you?  You’re literally going to try and tell the person that you ask to do everything for you that they don’t know what they are doing?  Okay.  I’ll start playing dumb, just like you.  Then you can do it all on your own like a responsible adult.  Good for you, see how smart you are? 🤣. Dumbass 

Didn’t talk all day until I finally asked if he wanted to go bowling or not.  Now it’s 7:10pm and he hasn’t called me yet.  Who knows if he will on his drive home or not.  I don’t really care either way.  He’s the asshole in this.  Not me. 🤣. If he’d just taken a change of clothes with his dumbass.  Now we aren’t going to get to leave until much later and barely bowl.   He is doing this shit on purpose for sure to send my mind into overdrive.  Probably closing with the skank again.  Oh well.  Let him be scum.  Doesn’t matter to me at this point.  He can go ahead and keep proving me right. 🤣. Got home at 7:16pm.  Didn’t call me 

Texted Jason at like 2:42pm and told him he can’t give out anything free today since he is closing with a store manager today.

Wednesday February 19, 2025

Had to close. the garage door for him.  Physically.  It quit working when we got home from bowling last night.

Has that managers name saved in his phone now.  Marquesas, but she isn’t the M name.  Bet she’s a Mexican with fake eyelashes.  64 contacts now.

112/121

I sent him a message about the garage door once he left and he didn’t read it or respond 🙄. Finally read it at 11:04am.  

11:21am texted me got to give it a wiggle and a giggle.   Seems a little fucking weird.  Bet he says he was talking about the garage door.  He sure is on his phone a lot at work.  I responded 😳 and he responded make sure you get it on video.  I said who are you talking to?  Now I have no clue what the hell he is talking about.  Probably meaning to text that skank.

Saturday February 22, 2025

Read my text at 7:15pm right away and responded.  He got home at 7:30pm

Jason had texted him and said u still didn’t tell me how you got out so fast last week.  

Interesting text and I wonder when he is talking about 🤔

Has texts from M about her getting a Lyft there and then at 5:58pm he said all he has is the store key and then she said at 6:15pm she is in Cupertino at the moment.  

Sunday February 23, 2025

He left the house at 10:45am without saying a word and was in the shower shaving before he left.  Pulled out towards the bowling alley.  Was texting me some crazy bullshit about how he heard me calling someone and it went to voicemail.  So I wonder what he is up to because I sure as fuck didn’t call anyone.  Seems a little fucking odd for him to make up unless it’s like I thought and he’s getting all this money now so he doesn’t need me for anything.  

Game ended about 2:45pm

He left the bowling alley about 4:15pm

Got home at 4:40pm.  Of course he punishes me by leaving me alone at home all day, where I spend all my days while he is out drinking and flirting with whores.  This is how he retaliates if I question him on anything, he punishes me by isolating me while he goes and has fun.  

Monday February 24, 2025

At 3:02pm he was texting Karim about what a good job m has been doing and how she has even taught him a few things 🙄  I am sure she has..

Tuesday February 25, 2025

He had a text from his ex and an email.  She was wondering if he had changed his number because he hadn’t responded to her text from Saturday which he said he didn’t even see.  It was just saying something about he might have received a notice about updating her Florida license or some shit and that she took care of it.  Didn’t warrant a response even so she feels inclined to email him too?  They aren’t together.  She doesn’t need to be emailing him shit because he doesn’t respond.  I said she sounds like a nutjob.  Most people would just send another text.  He said that he hated that it was always things on her time, anything he ever needed, it was on her time.  I laughed and said that sounds like exactly how you are 🤣🤣🤣. He told me it’s almost over, don’t worry.  Well guess what, I shouldn’t be having to deal with this at all.

When he left for work I reminded him that I want to know if she responds.   He got to work and she already responded to him 🤣. Bitch needs too much attention.

He came home at lunch and surprised me with a hot chocolate 

Read my text message at 5:25pm and didn’t respond

Texted me at 6:41pm and said he is running late, they got busy and he’s working on the floors still.  I didn’t text him back because hello, he’s busy and at 6:53 he texts me and says love you.  He probably thought I was mad.

6:54pm said he is counting the tills

Called me at 7:23pm and said he is just leaving to-gos.

Thursday February 27, 2025

Got home at 10:55pm after arguing at bowling since he could cheer for everyone else all night and ignore me.  he went into the living room. 

Then came to bed at about 2:20am and had changed his background to his car.  Good for him.   He can learn to fuck that if he loves it so much.   It’s kind of like me fucking him, it’s an inanimate object just like him.

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Let me tell you about the jokes I was told in January 2026 and many previous months before.

Joke #1: “I’m just at home.”

Interesting how “home” kept moving depending on what questions were asked.  He must consider the bars his home.

Joke #2: “I don’t delete messages.”

Apparently phones now erase conversations out of sympathy.  And then his defensiveness showed about deleting messages.  Any grown man purposefully deleting certain messages has a very certain reason why he would be trying to hide something.

Joke #3: “You’re overthinking.”

Translation: I noticed patterns he hoped I wouldn’t.

Joke #4: “Why would I lie?”

Because the truth would require integrity.

Joke #5: “You’re the only one.”

Funny how exclusivity requires secrecy.  I believe that from when I left him back in April of 2025 after his last cheating and lying stunt with Cody that he began leading his double life where he was single in San Jose and yet carrying on a long distance relationship with me.  He was caught multiple times carrying on with other women for validation while continuing to lie to me and tell me I’m the only one and how madly he is in love with me and blah blah blah.  Everything he has ever said has been a lie.  He had multiple chances to change, to address his behavior and yet he continued to abuse me, to gaslight me, and to lie and cheat on me.  

January wasn’t dramatic. It was clarifying.

When someone lies about where they are, deletes evidence, shifts timelines, and then calls you paranoid for noticing — that isn’t misunderstanding. That’s rehearsal.

And here’s the part that really settled it for me:

The truth only ever appeared when it was cornered.

I didn’t leave because I was confused.

I left because I finally wasn’t.

If this feels familiar to you, pay attention. Patterns don’t improve with patience. They just get better at hiding.